DnJ, Lots to ponder and process. Thank you for the response and stimulating questions..
I do believe that my/kids feelings are our own responses and not actually caused by W’s behaviours. It is my responses that determine my experience and trajectory and also model for our kids. And I want to move away from blame and to accurately and in a healthy way address issues that need addressing for me. My responses, my control, my responsibilities and values.
“ Good. Are you sticking to healing and working through grief? Protecting sounds like a different tact.
Do consider your options and strategies for healing and grief. One of which is not protecting from hurt. Feel the hurt. And grow and gain strength.
Something like: I am guiding and strengthening my family so that we can grieve and heal”
