I am considering telling W, “I understand that you are continuing to have an affair. I accept that you have chosen this. It hurts me very deeply and I am worried about the trajectory of what your choices will have upon our family. I can speak for myself and for what I see in our kids and what they are telling me that we feel abandoned. I am considering my options to protect our family so that we can grieve and heal.”
Haven’t decided if when and what exactly I should say. I don’t really like the phrase, “considering my options.” Maybe “I have some decisions to make” is better.
I do need to take my time with this and believe what I say - make my communication authentic.
