Thank you DnJ, it's so hard. You are very kind to give your time to my relentless angst. When my calm / soothing mind is at play, I see the sense in all the DB stuff but it can be confusing. Sometimes posts seem to be aiming for a positive divorce rather than how I save a marriage. I really appreciate the mix with your responses of providing some hope whilst still coming back to focusing on me. I've got a fantastic relationship with both my kids and would never demonise their dad. They're both old enough to understand what is happening & have coped fantastically so far but it broke my heart today when my daughter came to me saying everytime she sees her dad, she wants to cry and can't understand why because she feels so angry at him. I just said there will be a whole host of emotions and sadness is a biggie. You love your dad and you're frightened of the change but know that he loves you dearly and that won't change whether we are in the same house or not. I just hope that's true.
