Wolfman Moving Forward 5

[Wolfman]

Hello everyone, its been a while. Things have not been good. I really don't know what to do anymore. The relationship is sinking and fast. Its getting to the point where I cannot disagree with her or else I will feel the wrath. Obviously, she is super jealous of my son. There is always a problem with him. She keeps wanting me to put her as number one. She feels whatever she tells my son he should do and I should back her. Example super bowl. I do not have cable I just have a few streaming services (to keep cost down) and I went to the store before the super bowl. No party it was just me, gf, son and baby. My son and I were on our way home from the store, my son asked if he could watch the beginning on my phone. I said sure, we walked in the door at 6:30. The kitchen table was a mess and the baby was eating dinner in the high chair and gf was trying to get the super bowl on the tv through youtube. She was paying for it for us to see. As soon as we walked in she told us she was trying to get it and for us to clean off the table (not a mess we made) while she tries to get it. My son said he doesn't want to miss the kick off. I said just clean up a little quickly. He said dad they are about to kick off. I said ok don't worry I will clean off the table. Gf said I asked both of you to clean it off, it will go faster if you both do it. Son said, he doesn't want to miss any, I said to Gf let him watch it I will take care of the table in no time. Now she got upset and said really he can't even help a little. So he started to take some things off the table and now he was upset he was missing a little bit of it. It took her about 15 minutes to get it up and running on the tv. Now she was very annoyed with the both of us. Later on I spoke to her about it. She was very angry that she feels my son does not respect her and does not have to listen to her and that I allow him not to listen to her. I replied, he is 12 ans doesn't want to miss any of it and I said I would take care of it and he did clean up a little bit of it too. She feels why was it so difficult for him to help and that I basically baby him. Her exact words were, "he should listen to what I tell him to do." I said very nicely I get that but I said I would take care of it and he did help a little, why is this such a big deal? She replied because she feels my son does not have to listen to her and I don't back her. She has literally been mad at me now since sunday.

Another example, she takes the baby to the library down the road from our home. Library is great a lot of activities for kids. She also signs him up for programs there. Well one day she said we should sign you son up for some programs to get him out of the house. I looked at the programs and said to her, look I know my son he will not like any of these programs. She replied but don't I think it would be a good idea for him to try new things. I replied yes, but things he would be interested in, sports is what he likes. But she insisted to ask him to try these things. It went back and forth for a little while. I said I will ask as a joke just to see his reaction. Of course he was not interested I played along briefly, why not? its something different? He said he wasn't interested. Then gf came into the room and she started. Why not? try something different? you might like it. You can meet new people. He kept saying no he wasn't interested. I said to her nicely he's not interested, I told you he wouldn't like to do those things. Now she ket going with it. Come on just try it. Now he was starting to get annoyed. Now he started to ignore her, and of course now she gets mad, why are you ignoring me, thats disrespectful, she says to me are you going to say something. I said look he doesn't want to do it lets just let it go and I said to my son, don't ignore gf when she is talking to you. He said but i already said no a bunch of times and she keeps asking. Of course gf getting a little louder that doesn't give you a right to ignore me. I said look lets just end this conversation its going nowhere. Now she is really mad saying how can i take his side when he is being disrespectful to her. Honestly she is a child mentally/emotionally. I have another child on my hands. I honestly can't take this anymore. I am going to have to figure out how to get out of this. I am not ready to let go, but I know at this point I may have to.

Please any advice, thoughts. I am just feeling down. I worry about the baby and how I am going to handle all of this.