Sorry man, that was tough to read - you've got me all riled up. The thing is there's "knowing" about the affair in the abstract, which you've dealt with emotionally, and then there's seeing tangible evidence of it thrown in your face in your own house.
Not sure the official "DB" answer is - maybe be detached enough not to care/act anyway - but I personally don't think you'd be wrong to take the flowers and cards and throw them in the trash or fireplace. At least you'd be standing up for yourself, acting out of strength, and modeling for your kids not to put up with that betrayal and disrespect.
If there's any consolation for you it's that you'll never need to explain who was the "bad actor" to your kids - W is showing D18 exactly what going on. Now, that's probably not great for D18's development, but she knows exactly who the bad actor is.
Hang in there DW. You have every right to be angry, but feelings are fleeting and you will get through this.
Me:39 Ex-W:37 M:7 T: 9 S:6 D:3 BD/IHS/Confirm EA/PA: Feb '20 OM1 affair ends: May '20 W/OM2 & moves out: June-July '20 W files for D: Jul20 OM2 confirmed: 9/2020 Divorced: May '21
