Update - I went to friends Saturday night and had a wonderful fun night. Talked about H without anxiety or tears and had a great meal. Came back home and the anxiety was immediately there. H was "working" today & when he came home, I just felt I couldn't hold it in. I was calm (he wasnt) and I gave him all the evidence that he was having an affair. He still denied it coming up with the most ridiculous lies. I said I thought he should take some time away from us & I'm in turmoil about this now. Will we ever get him back? When I feel detached, I believe this is the right thing and I'll survive with or without him. In some ways, I think its easier if he's not in the same house because whenever he's there and not his usual loving self, it's like a stab in my heart & a reminder he has someone else. But D(16) walked into his room and saw a long text with hearts and kisses at the bottom and she's now full of anxiety that we won't be the happy family we were last year. I don't know what I'm saying I just feel that fear and distress again and a desperation for certainty. How long does it take for the affair fog to lift? I still feel like any attempts to work on me are designed to be a better person for him not me. He's my everything and I can't imagine my life without him but equally I don't want him how he is. He's not the person I fell in love with. He said tonight that he loves me in some respects. What's that supposed to mean? Sorry, I'm ranting again. I don't know if the forums help or not, feeling churned up. Sorry!
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