I’m not ok with OM or W cheating. I am focusing on myself and I recognize there is some cake eating. My intention is to not promote cake eating but to have less interaction and not wait around holding my breath - move forward with the mindset this is not turning around now and might not ever.
But pay attention to what is working well for me and not put pressure or expectations on her. Do I have hopes and wants? You bet I do but there are distinctions of what is in and out of my control.
