The problem isn’t actually wanting a relationship with another person. Nor is the solution to be with another person. An affair is just a symptom. An indicator of a deeper internal problem. Which ain’t fixed by having an affair.
Everyone writes their own life story. And the vast majority are not the villain in their own story.
Villain, victor, victim, vacuum, void.
My XW blasted off to her shinny new life with more a victor mentality. However, like most before BD, when first starting that trek, she felt more void/victim, a bystander, in her own life.
An affair is the futile attempt to fix themselves. To try to find happiness. Not realizing healing and happy come from within.
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Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
