Hi L, think I've put the details in my signature now. BL42 told me how to use quotes but can't seem to manage it on my phone!
I don't know what I'll do if he refuses to go. That will be really tricky. I suppose we will need to develop some boundaries and rules. I think I'd find that really hard though.
I want him to tell the kids because I think he needs to be open and honest with them. They are 19 and 16 and know there is something happening.