Sometimes it feels that she is trying to force me to be the one to file or make active steps towards divorce. Either because she is scared or she wants another justification in her actions. I can easily call this pressure from her side on me to go back on my marriage vows.
This is how it's been for me as well. My W started filling D paperwork out early Nov. She wanted me to take care of the rest of it. I didn't. She dropped it until this week and reprinted the forms and started filling them out again. She wants to work together to fill them out. I may get stuck where I have to initiate in the future, but as of right now, I'm going to make her be the one to pull the plug. I think a lot of it is the guilt associated with being the decision maker for such an impactful decision.
As far as your W trying to provoke you, my W does that also. There are certain situations, like when she's about to go out with "friends" that she'll try and start an argument for no reason. I realized she is trying to make herself upset with me, as if to justify whatever she's about to do. Just stay positive and leave that pile of guilt on her shoulders.
Originally Posted by "TellMeSo
Wonder what could have caused the loss of attraction so fast after the wedding...
My W and I went through a version of what we're dealing with now after only 5 years of marriage. Some things I've read have refer to a quarter life crisis, which if not corrected is likely to be followed by a MLC (what we're going through now). And if not completely fixed, it is likely to happen again in the future.
I don't understand it, but if you make it through this, be 100% sure you get through it properly. You don't want to have these same issues bubble up again in 15 years.
