My W basically did the exact same thing. She justified her decision to separate from me due to years of mental and emotional abuse.
WAS 101.
Mine did it too, and still daily tries to convince our mutual friends. None of them believe her.
What people will convince themselves of to avoid self reflection is mind boggling. Why not just say “I want to **** other men”? Seems a lot simpler than engineering some bullsh*t victim story.
The human brain is an incredibly smart, and yet incredibly flawed machine.
