DnJ you are a world of wisdom that brings a wonderful sense of calm to my frantic mind. I read the lighthouse story...thank you! It was exactly what I needed. I recognise the changes I need to make within any relationship and feel able and willing to commit to these. I've also had a good hard think tonight (probs morning for you) about what led to me feeling so withdrawn in terms of our sex life. I've got huge hang ups about my body so my first goal for me is to build my strength. I'm going to do this by joining the local gym. This will help with the evenings when my mind wanders. I'm also going to commit to trying to eat more regularly and trying to make the right food choices. Thank you so much for your words, as I said before they manage to keep my hope but also mix a bit of reality in there!
