marching,
Originally Posted by marching
So far I've been a little less friendly than the DB coach suggested (yes, she held firm to the "being friends" strategy even after I told her about the OWs) but also a little more responsive than advised here. This Middle Way seems to be working because we went from him wanting to start the D immediately, saying that talking to me makes him feel bad, and insisting that he is fine, to him not being in a rush to D, saying that he's willing to talk, and starting therapy. Of course, this could all change, but overall the temperature has gone down, which is good for my healing.
Whether you respond or not, just try not to do it with any expectations.

Originally Posted by marching
So, if this roller coaster goes down again, I'm confident I'll be stronger than I was during previous dips.
Good. That's important.

Originally Posted by marching
All to say that even though I don't always follow the advice here directly, I always reflect on it and follow the spirit of it, and the input is always appreciated.
Fair enough. We don't always agree here anyway; reflecting on it and making your own decision is smart. It's your life.

Originally Posted by marching
Originally Posted by BL42
Martial arts? Nice! Way to stay busy and be social.
Yes! I'm learning how to literally kick a$$. It makes me feel great!
Niiiice! Get after it!


Me:39 Ex-W:37
M:7 T: 9
S:6 D:3
BD/IHS/Confirm EA/PA: Feb '20
OM1 affair ends: May '20
W/OM2 & moves out: June-July '20
W files for D: Jul20
OM2 confirmed: 9/2020
Divorced: May '21