Divorce immediately after marriage

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TellMeSo,

I sometimes feel that my W is trying to provoke me to show negative emotions or to put so called pressure on her to have a good reason to divorce.

Sometimes it feels that she is trying to force me to be the one to file or make active steps towards divorce.

Very possible. She wouldn't be the first one to attempt that.

Apart from the first 2 weeks after hearing the "news", I have been calm and signaling back mostly positive energy to avoid this.

Good for you. Stay calm and in control of your emotions under pressure is important.

I guess it's part of emotional rollercoaster but some days I am thinking as if I was the one gaslighting her, next day it's completely opposite and I think that she could have been gaslighting me.

I could see some days blaming yourself due to her gaslighting and other days seeing through the BS to know it's not you, but why would you think some days you're gaslighting her? That should be a simple answer...are you lying and deceiving and telling her things which are blatantly false, or not?