Detachment is nice DnJ but it isn’t easy and I’m not there all the time…
Yep.
Detachment brings control of your emotions. Indifference brings a reprieve from them.
Indifference is a time of numbness or attenuation of one’s feelings towards their spouse. And a golden opportunity to sort out who you are, to dig and understand one’s beliefs and convictions, while temporarily muted from the noise and pull of one’s spouse and their behaviour.
Originally Posted by Rockon
I have asked God to forgive her and bring about his work. I have benefited from much grace and forgiveness and patience from God and others in my life. I have asked Him to help me not stand in a place of judgment as God but for me to follow what He is presenting me with.
Love the sinner, forgive the sin.
We people work to forgive the deed, the transgression. Only God is wise enough to know and therefore forgive the person and soul.
Realize you are not forgiving W, rather forgiving her behaviour.
Originally Posted by Rockon
I do experience ill will, dark thoughts and temptation to seek retribution, judgment etc towards W, especially towards OM and at times directed at myself. I encounter temptations to act out. But these things are not what I want nor where I want to go.
So, where do you want to go? What life’s headings are you steering towards?
It’s perfectly ok to not have an immediate answer(s).
This unwanted crucible we all found ourselves in, can be just that - where one finds their “self”. Have faith, answer will present themselves when one is calm and at peace.
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Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
