Continuing to focus on myself. Take space from W and give her more than she asks for. Not trying to show or convince or manipulate her of anything but being consistent and focused for me for who and where I need to be. Crossed paths with W at an event. Was relaxed, engaged in the event and oriented to self and others while projecting no ill will towards W. A girlfriend of hers (who is a friend of our family and understands a bit of our struggles but not in my inner circle) told me that W told her I looked good. I said “I feel good, smiled changed the subject.” I am dressing well and taking care of myself.
I am not being swung around uncontrollably with W’s behaviours or words anymore. Don’t get me wrong I am still feeling lots. And processing. My physical fitness has begun a nice up trend again after a plateau and loss of some gains/backwards steps. Engaging in therapy.
So Rock do you have ill will towards your W? If you do ( which you should) and you don’t show it that’s considered manipulation. Look I get why you’re doing what you’re doing act as if etc you are following the DB instructions. It’s exhausting isn’t it? To me if her having a BF doesn’t work for you then you should have zero problem letting her know it.
