Thank you BL42 for your reply. I know your replies have come from experience & compassion but some of the responses were really tough to hear. Even though I know they're probably true, they still activate that desperation to make him want me again.

We've not been in the same room for a few years, largely due to his horrendous snoring but also probably because it helped me avoid sex. We were still intimate in other ways. The avoidance of sex on my part probably started off with me being unhappy about my body & then I just had a general loss of libido and almost became frightened of sex. We still laughed and loved each other and that's where my statement about getting away with it came from.

Last edited by DnJ; 02/06/23 05:54 PM. Reason: Corrected typos.

H - 52 Me -53
M - 20yrs T - 26 yrs
S 19, D 16