Thank you so much DnJ, BL, and bttrfly. I appreciate your wisdom and chiming in.
I'm actually feeling really happy with my life and very at peace with everything now. I wouldn't date if I hadn't been feeling over him - eg, if ex came to my door and begged me back I'd say no. Driving my little guy to the zoo today I couldn't help but think about how much happier I am not having to endure long drawn out conversations from him perseverating on yoga/spiritualism/abolishing the police etc etc, having to constantly tiptoe around my words, avoid jokes that would offend him, avoid talking about my job because it would annoy him, whatever. It's been a year since I filed for separation, then filed for divorce in February/March timeframe.
Feeling any way other than fully over him is not fair to whomever I date so I waited until I felt that way. I may want to hold off until I get back from Europe though just so I can be single there. Not to hook up with anyone (never been interested in that) but just so I don't have to feel tied down in any way.
That being said I completely see where you all are coming - any recommended length of time before considering getting serious?
