I crunched the numbers on the state calculator and they appear to be correct taking into account even his wife’s contribution to the house hold bills. Our disparity in income is roughly 40k per year.
He pays half her activities. She is insured under him, but that is $15 extra every 2 weeks. Her braces were free because of his coverage. She’s just with me most of the time so anything she needs, she asks me. she doesn’t get everything she wants, but it adds up. We will be splitting her behind the wheel school we need to pay for. In the beginning, because I made more as well, I had to lay 57% of daycare, which literally slaughtered me.
It’s just really sad and disappointing. Part of me wishes k had the opportunity to remarry to have a second income, sadly.
It just stinks. I’ve never had a chance to save in my life. I was paying my own rent and living expenses since 19. My own education. Lost money on our home in the divorce. There was just never a chance to save. I would live in a cheap studio for a while if it wasn’t for putting a decent roof over my daughters head in a decent school system.
Paying my own way since 18-19 years old, and paying me and my daughters own way since 27.
I’m tapped out. And yes, I’m feeling bad for myself today. I’m allowing it .
