One day at a time.

[DnJ]

Good Morning Mike

I miss the companionship. The way things used to be I suppose. Things seem fake now and that’s unfulfilling.

I hear you man.

Perfectly normal progress Mike. Things do seem fake. “Feel” fake. For a while. It takes time.

Some musings from a friend who’s further down the path. (By the way, that’s me. )

I totally remember how unfulfilled it all seemed. Life in general. At the time I kind of understood it’s part of grief. The moving from bargaining into depression. I say kind of, for until you live through it, actually experience it, and as strange as this is, FEEL it, you don’t quite understand it.

You will get through this. You will eventually feel differently. And that is when and where and how you come to understand and appreciate the grief process. Yes, appreciate grief. Forgiving acceptance, the soul crushing pain and loss, and such; a testament to one’s self and values and how real and true things once were. And still are. How true you still are.

Still are.

It only seems fake.

Slowly we change/update our internal expectations, definition, outlook, etc. of our life. I’m not just talking about being roommates, or living sperate, or living single. I’m talking the deep values within.

Eventually, the pieces of you coalesce. The strengthening of beliefs, altering, discarding, the inner work, better not bitter - it pays huge dividends. Things settle and fulfilment is found.

It only seems fake.

Remember, I walked this path:

You are still defining you by your situation. That is the “fake-ness” you feel. (Again, perfectly normal progress.) You need to walk this step, to feel this, to move through it, all to understand yourself.

Fulfilment, happiness, peace, contentment, come from within.

Grief is loss. Acceptance is emotional understanding and letting go the loss. It takes time.

I know this smart guy, with a good soul, whose thread title is “One day at a time”.

It takes time. One day, one step, at a time.

D