Still a glutton

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My big news:

I finally hit the bullet and asked my ex to revisit child support.

YES!!! Well done. So glad to hear it. Reading this literally put a smile on my face.

He wasn’t too shocked , but he did cry poverty. He’s really sucked dry every month paying for that stupid hotel timeshare they bought. Which has brought them to Italy, San Diego, Hawaii, and myrtle beach every year. 🙄 feel so bad.

Yeah...life's tough. Poor guy.

And she came into the marriage with student loan debt she is still laying off. Boooooohooooooo

His AFFAIR PARTNER had student loan debt. Too bad so sad. I'm sure you know this, but it has ZERO legal impact on his child support obligations.

I told him we can either work something out between us, or we can formally go through the courts. He said he is going to think on it.

I strongly advise you to A) run the numbers yourself an online calculator (inputs: your income, his income, your custody arrangement) and B) consult a L...or two! It's so important to have a firm understanding of what he should paying in support so that when he almost assuredly comes back to you with a low ball offer you can counter with something realistic. And trust me, a court magistrate or judge is NOT going to be sympathetic to him. You almost certainly have leverage.

I’m proud I finally did it.

You should be proud of yourself! I could tell something was holding you back...way to take a stand.

Trust me, I hate asking. I feel inadequate. I work a career and some extra, but being the only contributor to the house hold kills me.

Remember, this is not for you...it's for your daughter. You just did her a favor.

2 of my incomes? That would be a whole different story.

Right...like the deal you signed up for...which he bailed on.

Well done Ginger! Way to stand up for yourself and your daughter!