That is my fear as well. Most new posters do not make the right changes fast enough. They also do not keep the changes. They are making changes to manipulate their spouse.
One change that I strongly suggest is to not let her emotional state effect yours. You seem to be focused on her fluctuating state. 180 and do not worry about her emotional state. Let her be however she needs to be. You be content 100% of the time.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
