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I'm sure there are more that I can't think of. Many "touch and go" scenarios.
Caliguy Lostforwords
Originally Posted by Eagle
He does the utmost for his children, and also with me. He constantly puts me first for everything right now. Not always in words, but always in deeds. I can give many examples such as going to the store and always asking if I need anything else, making my favorite dishes, being very attentive, organizing the dates,... Is this what you mean by pushing?
Typically, they come back in the order that they left.
Honestly though ?
I don't see him at that point yet where he is committed to anything other than himself. I think he is trying to put some salve on some old wounds, and is still very much about him.
Now that might be guilt, it might be fear, it might be that he has nowhere else to turn right now and he knows that you are a nice fluffy landing spot for him. And that through everything else, he never really lost you. And since you had been flirting with dating, the chance of losing you made him poke his head out and make sure that he hasn't lost you.
The only thing I have to go by are his actions that you are telling us.
My instinct is that if you are putting your life on hold for "now" with him, I don't sense that he is ready for that.
To me it reads more like he is trying for a connection without the accountability of responsibility. To make sure that you are right where he left you. That there has been soooo much damage done, and you have flipped status quo and become the safe spot for him , even though he ran from you before.
If he is pursuing, it's a pretty soft attempt at it. Like he isn't completely sure, and that typically isn't good for long-term and is the main ingredient in a "touch and go".
So my question would be with that, where does HE feel that the majority of the damage has occurred ?
I could very well be wrong with it, yet that is my first instinct....
