Thanks for that Mach. You're right, and I am doing that. But can't help feel guilty and the need to "make up" for their sitch at times either. Maybe that's me projecting my loss of a nuclear family onto them as well, and maybe they're just going to be OK with that. But I have had the sense I need to step up because of what ExW decided. I'm working to give them that enriched life and modeling the character and values I can. That'll have to be enough. Just need to give myself a bit of relief and grace for the part of the situation I can not fix.
So is guilt holding you back, or moving you forward ???
Maybe define the guilt to see what direction it's moving you in..
A good friend of mine asked me once.
Do you want to be defined by the worst thing that you have gone through ???
Guilt holding you back, keeps you defined by it....
Because you DO deserve some relief, and you do deserve some grace ( as long as Grace is okay with that : ) )
Cause even though "ExW decided". you've made decisions since then that have affected each of you positively, and you can't be stuck in what her decisions were...
