Wolfman Moving Forward 5

[Wolfman]

Wolfman,

Re: Son & GF...I've never parented a teenager but just about every material out there says they push boundaries, assert independence, and act disrespectfully at times. Doesn't sound like this specific instance was any worse or alarming than an average teenager interaction. I'm guessing it's more challenging in a way though in a mixed family situation because she's not his mother but his dad's GF. So she doesn't feel like she has the authority to discipline a kid in her house and might feel like you side with him over her (blood is thicker than water). It's a challenge I imagine you'll have in any situation going forward. Continue to think you and GF need to work on communication and see a counselor...maybe a good topic to discuss there.

We see a therapist every week. Things were getting better. But for her the littlest things get completely blown out of proportion. The therapist has helped us work on communication and just planning ahead. But it’s little day to day things that throw things off.

I'm sorry - she was interrogating him for ten minutes and pushing him completely inappropriately. I totally see this from your son's perspective and she is TOXIC!!! Does she EVER apologize to him (or to you?) for ANYTHING????

If it was me, I would just let her go, and get a good attorney to protect your custody rights to your child with her.

Hearing these stories about her makes me glad I'm a straight woman and don't have to date crazy women like this.

Surprising she gave a half apology about her behavior. Half because she said she should have never cursed or raised her voice like that. But then tried to justify why she did. That she just feels completely disrespected and that i don’t back her. And this is build up over the years we have been together. My opinion still no reason to speak like that. She has a real problem with ANYONE telling her what to do. She has to be “right” all the time. And if someone disagrees she will keep going until they do or she gets mad and walks away. I have put up with so much for the sake of the baby. I try and I try. I know I am not perfect but my god. My mental health is taking a toll. The last 4 days I cried twice. Granted I know this is my fault but that doesn’t make it any easier.

Dnj I agree with you. If she is going to ask a question she should be ok with either answer otherwise don’t ask the question. He said no, explained why, but that wasn’t enough for her. I think you are right she really wanted to do a family hang out and my son I said shot it down. So she was trying to convince him, which was not right.

Is she mentally ill? Because your posts indicate at best a deep immaturity, bordering on some kind of personality disorder.

I second Kml's post.

Honestly sometime I think she is bi-polar. She can be happy and sweet one minute and the next, completely out of her mind. I walk on eggshells a lot. I am trying so hard to make this work at the expanse of my mental health. I am just so sad and feel like a failure. I don’t know what to do anymore. Honestly I just feel like being alone. But the. Feel the loneliness will kick in and make me depressed that I am alone. These last 4 years (since divorce to now) have completely destroyed me. I don’t know who I am anymore. Or even what I want out of life. I rushed into something I had no business doing and here I am.