My wife and son are on their way back from his out of town activities with the chance that we are gonna tell the kids tonight about the divorce and mom moving out.
That's an emotional event. It's going to be tough. Have you prepped for it as best you can? Thought about your words and anticipated the kids' questions and prepared responses?
You're welcome to come post about it afterwards to vent and let out emotions. I'll try to check back later and respond if you do.
Wife and son got home around 5:30 last night wife wanted to know if I was ready to tell the kids I said it’s not so much about when to tell them it’s more about how we’re going to tell the kids and that we haven’t even talked about this. so when I was putting some clothes away in the bedroom wife was in there with me going over what she wanted to say. I said that was fine, got A little emotional, sucked it up and said let’s do it. I went to my daughter’s bedroom said we need to talk downstairs in the living room. We went to the living room where my son was at and said we had to talk. Then I let my wife tell them. She left them know that we love them and that we have been struggling to get along for some time. A decision was made to get a divorce and she will be moving out at the end of March they would be spending 50% of the time with each of us. My daughter asked my wife if my wife was OK looked at me and saw me crying and not saying anything for the first time in her life. I don’t think she knew what to do about that. My son just stared off in the corner. Neither of them had any questions except for my daughter wanted to know where the dogs would be. We let her know for the majority of time that they would be. Of course one of my dogs needed to go outside so I started walking my dog out and heard my daughter say it’s OK mom it’s just part of life don’t worry. While I was outside with the dog my daughter comes out gives me a hug, says that everything‘s gonna be fine and that she’s going up to her bedroom. Son still on the couch with my wife next to him making sure he is all right. I started doing dishes. Then s12 and wife go up to his room to talk. Feels like five minutes later my wife tells me that S12 wants me in his bedroom. Once I’m in s12 bedroom alone with him I tell him none of this was his fault, I’m not going anywhere I will always be here for you, and that it’s gonna take a lot of healing but we’re gonna be OK. Ask him if he wants to go into my bedroom and watch football he said yes we watch football and I asked him if he had any questions he said no I said do you want me to talk or be quiet. He said to be quiet. We watched football and he slept in my bed with the two dogs and he stayed home from school to process the news. daughter went to school. Tonight son seems better now. I asked him what he was thinking or how he’s feeling and said he was just shocked and wasn’t expecting to hear anything like this. And he was very shocked at his sister’s response. He felt that she didn’t seem affected her at all. Which I know is not gonna be the case all along We will let the school know and we will get them into counseling. I feel some temporary relief that we told them.
M:51 W:43 T:17 M:15 S:13 D11 10/2022 BD/IHS 03/2023 W moves out
