Eagle,
The best advice I can give you is to take the time to read the posts of people who re-connected with their spouses.

Mach1 can probably give you a list of names.

It's really important to tread softly at this stage, because everything I've read indicates that this is the hardest part of the entire thing.

Start with Westo's.

M 20+ T25+
S ~15.5 (BD)
BD 4/6/15
D 12/23/16

"Someone I loved once gave me
A box full of darkness.
It took me years to understand,
That this too, was a gift."
~ Mary Oliver