Started an affair a few weeks before that timing. Immediately found out. Lying, spewing, rewriting of history, wanting both of us, etc. until I kicked him out 09/2019. Came back 2 months later, totally broken. (way too soon)
Final break-up with OW1 02/2020.
Home from 02/2020 until 08/2020. Deep outward depression, first signs of acknowledgement that something is really wrong with him. Still shows a lot of running behavior such as drinking heavily.
Accepts new job abroad since 04/2020, working from home since COVID, asked him to leave for the other country in 08/2020 since behavior is extremely bad for myself and my 3 boys, all teenagers.
From 09/2020 until 12/2020 slightly showing improvement whilst abroad, new running behavior...working out (sports) to an extreme level.
As from 12/2020 clear set-back into tunnel, start of OW2 but denies it.
01/2021 to 11/2021: In January he informs me that OW1 passed away (suicide), also asked for divorce, I agree. Still lives abroad and has R with OW2, denies the R until 09/2021.
Clinging towards me and the boys remains present at all times.
10/2021 until 02/2022: Break-up with OW2 in November, returns home, starts doing some work on himself and suddenly set back in tunnel again.
02/2022: Goes back to OW2. I finally let go in full. divorce final.No contact anymore with me nor with the kids. House is for sale. I’m done.
06/2022: Rock-bottom has been reached abroad during a trip with a friend. As from that time slowly improving contact with family and kids.
09/2022: "Final" break-up with OW, turns out she is pregnant, still reconnecting, now with me as well.
Today: still reconnecting
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