I have the same gut feeling as LH. Your GAL game is very strong which is commendable and will help you quite a bit. However, your W is cheating and disrespecting you and violating her vows so your "thankful for her safety" comment comes off as the wrong attitude to me. You need to get in a place were you don't know or care what she's doing, a place where you write her off and respect yourself too much to put up with this BS, a place where you move forward with your life without her.
Have you read Love Must Be Tough by James Dobson? Might be a good one for you and your situation with your religious ties and your W's wayward behavior.
Me:39 Ex-W:37 M:7 T: 9 S:6 D:3 BD/IHS/Confirm EA/PA: Feb '20 OM1 affair ends: May '20 W/OM2 & moves out: June-July '20 W files for D: Jul20 OM2 confirmed: 9/2020 Divorced: May '21
