If you need a divorce. Not want, need. For financial protection, or abuse, or assault, or some such, then get it. However, three years.
Are you saying your recommendation is that I give it three years?
Sorry about that. Didn’t mean to leave such a hanging and incomplete sentence.
No, I was not alluding to any time line. I was thinking/considering something you had said in your summary.
Originally Posted by Doug54
-August 2019: stepdaughter goes away to college. W cries on the drive home after we move her in. In hindsight, I'm wondering if this was a kickoff point for W's MLC.
Three years since W’s possible kickoff/trigger for her struggles. A year and a half later the laptop incident. Then March-ish 2022 BD.
You are almost a year from BD, three years from probable inception. Was just considering want vs need for divorce. Doing something undesirable out of need or want has different associated guilt and repercussions.
My recommendation would be to not take actions that purposefully lead to divorce. Let her do the heavy lifting. Unless you need it. Mental health, emotional health, financial health, and so on - you define the point of need.
Just some thoughts.
Glad you asked for clarification. Have a great day Doug.
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The college thing sounds familiar. We dropped d23 off at college in 2017 and W cried like a baby the entire 2 hour drive home. Never thought about it as a trigger. Maybe it wasn’t, but we haven’t had any other big life events.
