Bt, Your post makes total sense to me. I have to start drinking more stfu smoothies. When we talk I am making a conscious effort to not provide advise and just listen. When I do this she tends to just stay on track and talk about herself and emotions. I have found it hard this week to stay totally detached. She has been starting conversations and going deeper than usual. Today she came home from IC and opened up about a ton of issues and her feelings. I will work on getting my STFU card filled up with stamps, I do forget sometime that she is not on my team. The IHS makes it so difficult to fully detach, and easy sometimes to get drawn back in, but emotionally I feel better giving what I can’t control to God. I really do appreciate your advice. I Will continue to update the post.
As for me. I am constantly working on my spiritual, emotional and intellectual growth. I am doing well in my program, hitting meetings and meeting with my sponsor on the weeks I’m in town. I am still doing weekly coaching sessions and a self paced integrated man program. Spiritually I am continue to grow my relationship and connection with God, my prayers and meditations are very healing. I love riding the Harley when weather permits and doing as much Krav as schedule allows. I am still the rock for my children which will never change and know that whatever happens here I’ll be ok.
