BL, I promise you, they don’t remember how big and extravagant Christmas and birthdays are. They remember show showed up and how they felt. I understand the feeling of needing to be “perfect” for our kids, but kids don’t want perfect parents. They want real parents. Present parents. Reliable parents. And you are all of that.
Honestly BL, your kids are not a dealbreaker! For me, personally, I love kids and kids love me. I’m like the pied piper of children. The reason why I am so hesitant was because of how much it hurt when me and M broke up and I just lost his son. We were super close, I loved him , and I never got to say goodbye and to this day, I can’t not shed a tear talking about it. So it’s not because my kid is older and I’m about to be “free” in 2 years ( BTW, it’s not as exciting as I thought it would be, a pice of my heart won’t be living with me anymore and it makes me so so sad) .
I say this not to sway you into falling in love with me 😂but the kids thing will be a deal breaker to a few, sure, but like B said when someone falls for you, the kids will not be a deal breaker.
Again, not to sway you into falling in love with me, but I did have long distance R once ( 2.5 hours away, more than you probably are from me) and it didn’t work back then for multiple reasons, but because my daughter was young and there was no situation changing in sight . Now, I will have freedom in 2 years . So it’s actually a different perspective.
I don’t say this because I know we totally would hit it off, but just general. While dating for you might have additional challenges given the kids and their ages , really, they are challenges, not deal breakers
