FM you really need to embrace the concept of the STFU smoothie.
You also need to wrap your mind around the fact that a divorce is like a business partnership breaking up. The partners do not coach each other on how the process works. Each side does their own due diligence.
When she starts talking about how she thinks the divorce is going to go, STFU and listen. A response isn't required. If she asks for one say something like the non-committal "Hmm."
I don't advocate prompting follow up conversations. I don't advocate prompting or follow up questions at all. That's not what a STFU smoothie is all about. If you must talk, change the conversation to something neutral.
You're forgetting something that's crucial here: she's not on team FM.
Remember that. It's easy to forget this during IHS, or when she confides in you as she always has. Remember, right now she's not your friend. She's not your partner. She's also not the enemy, but she's certainly not on team FM or team FM Family.
Don't get sucked in.
I'm sorry, I can't punch a star on your STFU smoothie card in this encounter.
Take this encounter as a lesson learned and do better next time.
Last edited by bttrfly; 01/27/2312:58 PM.
M 20+ T25+ S ~15.5 (BD) BD 4/6/15 D 12/23/16
"Someone I loved once gave me A box full of darkness. It took me years to understand, That this too, was a gift." ~ Mary Oliver
