Read what BL42 just posted, and then read it a dozen more times.
You will eventually become very depressed and angry and bitter if your only solution forward from here is waiting for him to “snap out of it”.
We don’t say this for the fun of it 🤷♂️
We say it because time and time again, this board proves that the sudden wake-up and happily ever after that you so desperately hope for is exceedingly rare.
You only get about 80 laps around the sun Bat. Are you going to waste 3, 5, 10 or 20 of those years sitting around waiting for something which, the data suggests, is not likely to happen?
You have two choices. 1. Sit around waiting and pining and hoping 2. Accept it is what it is for now, get off your butt, and live every minute like it’s your last. Hobbies, counselling, travel, exercise, learn a language, learn about DBing and be the best, happiest Bat you can possibly be.
If you decide to drop the rope, divorce him, move on with your life… and then in 5 years he gets his s*** in a pile, has huge regret and wants back in - there’s nothing stopping you from reconciling. You aren’t throwing away your last chance by accepting that you can’t be together right now.
Have you read the welcome links? Ordered the DB book? Organised counselling for you? Considered intervention for his mental health?
I keep asking these questions and each new post is just “he said xyz what does it mean will he snap out of it?”
