BL working on your marriage is hard and neither of them want to do it. It’s like having to WS in a relationship but neither of them are motivated to leave.
I hear you LH but is it harder than living in a terrible relationship? If you're going to stick it out for the kids, why not at least try to improve things? I don't get it.
BL I’m guessing you have never lost feelings for a partner. Do you think it would have been easier for your ex to work on your marriage or uproot her kids, lose half of her friends and family, her job and potentially be financially destroyed? Seems like a no brainer right? Yet your ex and mine chose the latter.
Throw in the fact they both think the other person is the problem and they are both biding their time. I am trying to persuade him not to engage but he’s not a quick study lol.
