BL working on your marriage is hard and neither of them want to do it. It’s like having to WS in a relationship but neither of them are motivated to leave.
I hear you LH but is it harder than living in a terrible relationship? If you're going to stick it out for the kids, why not at least try to improve things? I don't get it.
Me:39 Ex-W:37 M:7 T: 9 S:6 D:3 BD/IHS/Confirm EA/PA: Feb '20 OM1 affair ends: May '20 W/OM2 & moves out: June-July '20 W files for D: Jul20 OM2 confirmed: 9/2020 Divorced: May '21
