Reading through Doug54's thread and it made me think of a few more things.
Originally Posted by Doug54
Ran into one of W's friends while out today and she remarked to me, unsolicited, "So, (W) is going crazy, huh? Midlife crisis?" You can't make this stuff up. This was an old friend whom W had somewhat reconnected with a little. I said "You can tell? I thought it was just me."
I just had this same experience this weekend, only W’s friend added that it seems like W never grew up. It’s weird how everyone else notices the changes except the one going through MLC. They surround themselves with people who won’t questions things, people who are struggling themselves.
D18 had a soccer game this weekend and her bf’s parents were there. W told me that the bf’s mom came up to her at half time and asked if she was doing okay because she had heard W was not doing well. W said she responded that she is doing great and living her best life and seemed genuinely dumbfounded that anyone would think otherwise. She is depressed, doesn’t sleep, doesn’t spend time with her kids, lost a bunch of weight because she barely eats (zero exercise), spends 2 hours/day in the bathtub, her 18 yr marriage is about to end, etc…and she still tries to convince herself she’s living her best life.
W also asked me why my mom no longer comments on her FB posts with pics of the kids now that she found out we were separating. I said I didn’t know but I should check on my mom since I hadn’t spoken to her in a bit. W never had a great relationship with my mom. I know W’s expectation of post-D life is rainbows and unicorns, but it was weird that she seemed confused by this. W only has a few family members that live here (parents, sister, 1 nephew), so maybe it’s related to losing the rest of the people she could still consider family. Who knows, that’s for her to figure out. But it was interesting to think about.
