Toddler/teen like - everything is about them, rebelling against constraints
Do you think it's possible for the first 20 plus years of marriage W thought everything was about Rock and the kids?
Yes I can imagine that W has that perspective and we certainly had toddlers and adolescents. And I have acted in some of those ways at times as well.
Originally Posted by LH19
Originally Posted by Rockon
That friend of W’s is an anti marriage influence on W. I don’t like her. Seeing was a reminder of what W is doing and I was internally disturbed by how friendly that friend was. Made me uncomfortable and left a bad taste.
Is it possible your W is maybe a bad influence on her?
Yes that’s possible even likely. And I think that’s a dramatic change. W was a positive influence for so many.
Originally Posted by LH19
Originally Posted by Rockon
I suppose the affair is the main thing I don’t like about W.I don’t like that she has left me or our family. I am repelled by that.
So this is where suffering comes in Rock. You want your W to be something she is not instead of accepting her for who she really is right now. She's not who YOU want her to be so you don't like her. GF is not who YOU want her to be so your don't like her. See the pattern?
I have been working on accepting who she is right now and I recognize I don’t like that. Same with the friend.
Last edited by DnJ; 01/23/2304:47 PM. Reason: Correct quote syntax.
