I think I'd also spend some serious thought on what I want because she's definitely paving the way home, for whatever purpose, who knows?
Hopefully you have a well defined list of "Non-negotiables". Your PRIVATE list that she will have to come up with to "Win" you back.
From my observation of the posters of the past that started piecing definitely made their spouses work hard before showing any signs of working on repairing the relationship.
Obviously you are now way ahead of her in your personal growth.
I am not following the details of your sitch, but things will be even more complicated if you are with another woman.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
