By the way, STFU is an acronym for Shut The F__ Up. A humorous, and yet serious, way of reminding one’s self to let go, let the other talk, and just listen to the clues your partner will drop. Lots of times being silent is the wisest course when dealing with a spouse who has their foot out the door.
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And if they start talking even more trash than normal, or they violate a boundary, such as discussing something that you don't want to discuss, you get to reinforce the boundary, in the manner LH describes above ...
M 20+ T25+ S ~15.5 (BD) BD 4/6/15 D 12/23/16
"Someone I loved once gave me A box full of darkness. It took me years to understand, That this too, was a gift." ~ Mary Oliver
