Also a STFU smoothie is what you drink when your spouse starts talking about his OW, etc. and details of their sex life, for example.

that's when you DON'T ask questions and you DO set a boundary.

Example: Husband, it seems you need someone to help you process your relationship with OW. I'm not the person to help you with this. Please get an IC. I don't want to hear about this any longer.

You get to punch a star on your frequent user smoothie card every time you use it.

If you punch it often enough your gift will be detachment.

Last edited by bttrfly; 01/19/23 04:07 PM.
M 20+ T25+
S ~15.5 (BD)
BD 4/6/15
D 12/23/16

"Someone I loved once gave me
A box full of darkness.
It took me years to understand,
That this too, was a gift."
~ Mary Oliver