How about this? You STOP telling a story and simply present the facts as they are, without embellishment or hypothesizing endlessly about possible outcomes?
Again I am sorry to bother you with my questions. I didn’t want to pull the card but I have a diagnosis on the autism spectrum. H doesn’t but we both think he could also be on the spectrum. One of the symptoms is obsessive behaviour and endlessly thinking about all possible outcomes.
This was hard on H too, and he asked me to stop talking about scenarios, so I did. Or at least try I do sometimes slip.
Simply present the facts is not that easy when you sometimes wonder what is the truth and when his answers change. And then hearing it could be gaslighting doesn’t help either in knowing what is reality.
You're not bothering me. We are here to help you as much as we can, but we are not professionals, so remember that what we can do is limited by that.
Ok, so the OCD piece needs to be addressed. This should be your priority for your own mental health.
Look at your feet. Now bring your gaze up and look around you. Is he there? If not, focus on what is in front of you. Keep it in the day/hour/minute/second. Work on being truly present in the moment to the best of your ability.
I realize that isn't easy, but with practice you will get better at it and recognizing when you are triggered.
Again, a simplistic answer to a complex issue a professional would offer more help with, I'm sure.
Last edited by bttrfly; 01/19/2304:02 PM.
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