Going dark feels like pressure

[DnJ]

Hello B

The lack of respect H feels due to not having a child sounds to be driven by his up bringing. I am pretty sure there are some cultural tendencies as well, however his parents, his outlooks, his meaning of/for life sounds more from family of origin issues. Or is this need for a child, a common force/factor within the population?

H was in IC a few years back, asking questions about the meaning of life and the answer he got was; to reproduce is the only purpose in life.

Here, for many folks, yes children are meaningful and give life meaning. However, reproducing is not the one and only purpose in life.

Differences in culturally accepted behaviours aside…

And if then after let’s say 1-2-3 years he would come back to me…

3 years. Maybe more. That’s a long time to wait.

I came to this board because I think here are people who understand I don’t want to let go. I can do my own thing for a while yes, even if it takes years.

I do understand. No one wants to let go in the beginning. Realize, this journey is counterintuitive. Doing the best/right thing often feels wrong; until you figure out the why of it.

To do your own thing is going to require you focusing on you. GAL. Living your life. And letting go of H.

Now, that’s a lot to tackle right out of the gate. Know, this path starts with small steps. Find some real life friends. Work. Do some hobbies. Talk with IC. Post. And have faith in the process. There are plenty of kind compassionate folks here, with much hard-earned wisdom to share.

The path forward, your journey, is about personal growth.

You’ve got the gift of time. Use it wisely.

D