It best not to tip your hand to H. He could be seeking to see how much you know, how prepared you are. Lots of STBXs are rather manipulative and pretty much out for themselves. This is still in play: Believe nothing H says, and only half what he does.
Do remain civil and cordial. Yes, the attempt at keeping things amicable is a consideration, however the larger view is for you. After whatever occurs, you have to look at yourself in the mirror.
I do like the provided suggestions from the others.
D
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
