Lol. Good point. I got myself into this situation because last time we had contact, I told H I'd reach out after I talked to an L. I said that to get him off my case, because he was repeatedly asking me about next steps even after I explained that I have other stuff to figure out first and he said he understood. DB coach said that in these situations, when someone keeps pressuring about D, it's worth trying to run a little faster than them because it could make them pause and rethink things a little. Hence the "carrot." Given them a little something while you adjust your bearings before they push you first. Just something to try.
I do see what you're getting at. I'm still operating from a place of fear.
