Part One: your relationship with your kids is your business.
your wife's relationship with your kids is not your business.
read that again.
your job as their parent is to make sure your relationship with them is solid.
your job as their parent in this situation is the following: 1. don't parentify them 2. don't interfere in any way with their relationship with their mother - no roadblocks, no efforts to smooth anything over either. 3. basically don't create a crisis and don't try to fix one. 4. if a crisis happens, be their dad. they will need that.
Part Two Don't confuse or project your feelings about the state of your marriage with how your children may or may not feel about it.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
