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All excellent feedback. Vu, it is so good to have you back! Life sounds like you are handling it like a champ and being a rock for your family, and even taking care of yourself there too doing what you enjoy. You are such a good soul.

He expresses very verbal interest in me. I won’t get into the details, but I don’t think interest is the problem. I am no longer afraid of expressing my wants. I have told him that I don’t need texting all day, but a little bit at some point to connect means a lot to me. A phone call, whatever. Twice he was supposed to call me, twice he texted at 11pm he was busy and I was probably sleeping, blah blah blah. And yes, I go to bed earlier than him. He works for himself, he is the boss and has a work phone as well. So he absolutely could make an effort to look at his phone and send a one second reply. It irks me when I ask a question, and it goes unanswered. It’s like being totally ignored.

DB 101: don't listen to their words. pay attention to their actions.

He has said he doesn’t want to mess this up over this. But he is good for a day then nothing.

That lack of consistency would drive me nuts.

He misses opportunities to make dates. Not a peep today. I know he has 2 kids, full custody, but they are teens.

Elaborate here for me please because I'm not clear on what you mean by missing opportunities.

He just admittedly hates texting, he doesn’t need communication for connection and I do. It’s been a problem before in his relationships.

So, here it is: a pattern of his which has sabotaged past relationships and he's yet to do anything to change it. This tells me that he's not all that interested in changing.

It’s the times we live in. It used to be phone conversations when you are first dating to get to know someone. Now it’s texting. But nothing keeps zero connection and does nothing for interest.

Admittedly I'm new to this but fully 85% of the profiles I'm reading the guy says please no endless texts? The kids text nonstop, but anyone over 40 not so much.

Truth be told, I think it’s his flakiness. He’s been late to 2 dates, had to call one off last minute. Forgets he has commitments, etc. missed promised phone calls….. he might say he is very interested but his actions show me otherwise.

I'll say this: in the first 3 months of a relationship - the honeymoon phase - you're getting the best of the person.

it's only going to go downhill from here.

And we all know I like to see action. The one bit of action he gives me is he makes dates, he wants to see me, but I don’t think he can get his sh!t together .

That would leave me feeling like a piece of crap. I'm amazed you haven't given him the door already.

Oh well. He does have his very good attributes, but if this is the beginning, this is his best foot forward, lol. It’ll probably get worse

You can bet the house on that G. And you're worth a lot more than a half-@$$ed effort.