One of the rules I see over and over is about not waiting too long to set up an in person meet. When I was OLD, I wanted to get to know someone a bit before I met in person, so that rule didn’t work for me. Did I miss out on dates because of it? Maybe…….but if they are pushing me to do something uncomfortable did I really actually miss out?
Dawn - the reason I recommend meeting early is because it is too easy to start to feel like you're in some kind of relationship or have an attraction for someone you haven't even met - meeting early weeds out the fake profiles, the ones you have zero chemistry with, and avoids wasting their time and yours any further. And I recommend a MEETING, like a coffee date, and not a full evening date for the first meeting, because you don't want to be trapped in a full evening date with someone you have zero interest in after meeting. Clearly, you want to talk to them enough before hand to make sure they're not scary (or as sure as one can be before meeting in person). And rules are made to be broken - two of my favorite exes were guys that lived 90 minutes and 11 hours away, that I talked to quite a bit before going to meet them. But they both were extremely compatible (except for their Love Avoidant ways!) and frankly, I was also very lucky. I couldn't recommend it for others as it's a risky thing.
