I’m not DV nor am I trying to put words in her mouth, but in my opinion, the problem with dating rules and guidelines is that they are open to a lot of interpretation and people interpret based on their own experiences. If rules and guidelines were followed the same way by everyone, I could see where they might be helpful but that isn’t realistic.
What works for me may or may not work for anyone else. We all have to do what works for us. This site is a good example of this…..many of us disagree on things and it is because our experiences are different.
I can only control me. I can’t control what anyone else does. Maybe it is just me, but I think a lot of daters are just winging it and doing their best.
Dawn I agree for sure all people are different that’s what makes the world an interesting place. So as you said most daters are winging it just like most newbies here are winging the DB principles. Nobody freaks out when we tell the to follow Sandis rules. Why the freak out when inexperienced daters are referred to dating rules?
