Next time he does something he knows bothers you and then asks if you are mad at him, I would be honest with him. “No, I’m not mad BUT when I reach out to you just to say “hi” and you take more than 24 hours to respond, it makes me feel like you aren’t really that interested in spending time together and it’s disappointing because it makes me start to lose interest as well.” It’s direct, it’s honest and it challenges him to increase his efforts (if he is as interested) or be honest with you in return.
Deja, I think this is perfect. I recently listened to a podcast re Truth vs Harmony, and how not saying things that bother you build resentment and ends up not harmoniously at all. Also, you'll find what kind of person the other is in how they respond to you expressing your annoyance/feelings. The girl who I am dating now regularly have truth v harmony check ins and it works amazingly well. But it isn't fair to be annoyed at someone about something when they don't even know, i think you have to give them a chance to address the issue.
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